Living An Extraordinary Life Starts With This Blueprint
It’s not extraordinary.
The Refusal Of The Call
I have always been out of touch with reality. A majority of the time, my head is in the clouds, searching for the next moment I can daydream and lose myself in a world of make-believe. Unfortunately, this has also been the issue of why I continue to struggle at being present — in my job, where I am at, or even the day-to-day routine.
But what if we could easily make the “fairy tale” stories of our dreams come alive in real life? Fairy tales aren’t about being whisked away by a Prince Charming. It’s not about selling your soul to a sea witch or growing your hair out to be the next model on a Pantene commercial (something Rapunzel could have considered if the whole being saved by a prince didn’t pan out).
No. Fairytales, legends, myths… they are so much more.
They’re a blueprint.
While I still love the truths that fairy tales can reveal, I have also come to terms that my inner world does not encapsulate fairy tales as much as I thought they did while growing up.
Growing up, I actually never wanted to be a Cinderella, a princess, or damsel-in-distress.
I wanted to be a knight in disguise that battled for Light, a fairy godmother who made dreams come true, a squire that rose to the occasion during times of battle. And maybe, just maybe, a genie in a bottle (not the Christina Aguilera kind).
I look back at my old journals — many of which have been filled with writings of fiction, dreams, and schemes. In all of these stories, the pattern remains the same.
All of the stories I created were always about extraordinary love and the human condition. The writings which filled the pages were enraptured with tales of overcoming obstacles — of countless failures and trails of inconsistency. Subconsciously, my inner world was creating the theme to my life. My inner world was speaking to me.
All along, and even now, I am still writing the pages of a journey.
We are all striving to create our own fairy tale. The problem is that we are too scared to call it for what it is.
We have fears — I have fears — of being shunned or laughed at by these aspirations. We might even inwardly cringe because living the life we have always dreamed of comes across as fictional and fabricated. It seems out of reach.
However, a legend is a legend because of the magical elements that are interwoven throughout the story. A legend recounts the story of ordinary people doing extraordinary things to achieve their dreams. Legends are magical to us.
The magical element is what separates an ordinary life from an extraordinary one.
But luckily enough, magic does not need to be created nor summoned. The magic that we need to make our lives extraordinary already exists.
Magic — the required ingredient to create an extraordinary life already exists around us as well as within us. We make things extraordinary by embracing the ordinary and noticing the magic hallowed on this earth.
Noticing the magic around and from within is often the missing ingredient in dreamers. Sometimes it’s not even that we do not notice the magic, but we are not staying in tune. We allow the distractions of the enemy — our inner demons — to slay our dreams and the magic of them.
The magic of life needs to be the reminder.
As dreamers, we either dive head-first to find out what’s at the end of the rainbow or we do nothing except dream — which is what most dreamers default to if they have not realized the magic in reality yet.
We forget to use the blueprint.
All people who have led extraordinary lives have come to terms with this “magic”. They are the risk-takers who believed in their dreams — their fairy tale. They have made it a tangible reality.
But how about us, dreamers who live within a dream?
Our mind constantly chases the idea of faraway places and adventure — we live for the stories that inspire us. Our inspiration comes from make-believe. Or so the world wants us to believe.
The magic of make-believe, legends, and fairy tales is exactly what we need to push our dreams forward. To push ourselves out of the clouds — out of the world — and into a new, extraordinary life.
This is reality.
I write this because I have met my enemy.
I have made it to the threshold of the journey.
But I have tottered back and forth, scared to take the leap.
I am a reluctant knight.
I struggle on the journey just as you do.
I have neglected to sharpen my sword for my inner battles.
I have fallen many, many times.
But as reluctant as I am, I try to remember that magic — the Spirit in me — is what will help propel me forward — deeper into an extraordinary life.
The magical ingredient exists in all of us, but like anything in life, we are given choice: to accept the call to adventure or reside in the ordinary world we have built up for ourselves.
Preparing for the Journey
Five months from now, I will embark on a journey — perhaps to a new land or one familiar.
I have five months to sharpen my sword.
Five months to stay present.
Five months to slay my current demons.
Five months to prepare myself to make a leap of faith into the unknown.
I don’t know what I will find, but if this was any ordinary story- any ordinary legend — I will know this at the very least:
I will meet allies.
I will meet new enemies.
I will face battles.
I will be tested time and time again.
But I will also journey deeper —
deeper into the labyrinth of the heart.
I’m writing this, because every dreamer needs an extraordinary story to live for. Every dreamer needs a blueprintto help guide the way toward extraordinary.
But the extraordinary story that we are searching for cannot be found anywhere on this Earth, profession, or in the riches we accumulate.
The extraordinary story we have been waiting for exists within us — in the ordinary— and it has been in us all along.
While I prepare to embark to a different land, the true journey is passing the threshold of my heart. To pick and prod until I allow myself to be vulnerable — even with myself. The deeper one goes into the journey of one’s heart, the clearer it is to see the extraordinary.
Everyone on this earth is ordinary, no matter one’s background, status, or nationality.
Martin Luther King, Jr. was ordinary. But what he did for what he believed in was extraordinary.
Mohandas Gandhi was an ordinary man. Yet his will and passion for peace made him extraordinary as well — a paradox in itself.
Jesus Christ himself appeared ordinary to most of the world — just a man of humble birth. Yet He epitomized the very definition of what “extraordinary” truly is. Being an extraordinary person means leading an extraordinary life.
Living extraordinarily means doing things that others would call foolish.
Extraordinary also means to continue to do what the world considers “foolish” even after countless failures.
Extraordinary is already in you.
If you thought that this was the end of the tale — the happy ending to have finally discovered the magic within you —
Nah. Not at all. That was just the beginning.
The real journey begins here.
Part II: The Call To Adventure
Furthermore, we have not even to risk the adventure alone, for the heroes of all time have gone before us. The labyrinth is thoroughly known. We have only to follow the thread of the hero path, and where we had thought to find an abomination, we shall find a god. And where we had thought to slay another, we shall slay ourselves. Where we had thought to travel outward, we will come to the center of our own existence. And where we had thought to be alone, we will be with all the world. — Joseph Campbell
To be continued…
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