I Spent A Long Time Writing In Solitude. This Is What I Found.
I’m a romantic. Surprise.
I’m not the mushy type — the type to create Pinterest boards about a wedding day or which dresses my hypothetical bridesmaids and guests would wear.
In honesty, this is only one reality that very few actually get the privilege to experience in their lifetime. For this reason, this romantic type of display is not my romance. Most boys and girls are trained to harbor this vision. But through trials of life, we found out how broken the world is to make this dream sustainable. So what we did — what you probably did or tried to do — was a find a new dream. A better romance.
Instead of a crush that comes and goes in life, this better dream does not involve a third-party infatuation. This dream is destined for you: your soulmate. After coming to terms with the world, you realize that soulmate is not limited to a person, because in truth, it is an ideal.
Yes… I still have a Pinterest board of my dream house — a Mediterranean vibe, terracotta-tiled love child and without doubt, plants… plants everywhere. I also still have another board dedicated to faraway places I know I will visit in my lifetime.
But even Pinterest boards, fortunately enough, are not the dream either. They aren’t the reasons why I am a romantic. They are also not the reasons why deep inside, you are a romantic, too.
I am a romantic because I am on a quest.
Not for gold nor for glory… but for love.
All of the greatest stories ever told are all about love in some shape or form.
Love grabs hold of you, consumes your inner being, carnally and spiritually.
“There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.” — Johnny Depp in Don Juan DeMarco
With love, there is no stopping you from what you can do. You will take the risks needed for true love. You will go the extra mile.
You will see with a new lens that some people will disagree with. They will disagree with it because on the outside — doing things out of love and for it seems foolish and naive.
But those who changed their worlds, changed them through love. These individuals were in love with their passion — whatever it may be. They were in love with the process, their beliefs, philosophies, or with their God.
They learned to love themselves unconditionally in moments of sorrow, failures, and bouts of happiness. They stuck it out and nurtured a healthy relationship with self. This is something that’s very rare to find (just like marriage) and yet still possible. Very possible.
That’s what true love does though. It transforms into action.
It is reflected in all creation through art, writing, and nature. It’s romance and romance in its truest form is love.
Our calling in life should be taking the hat of romantic in all of our endeavors. You do not have to become Don Quixote. Rather, become the most real, romantic person that you are deep inside. The world believes that most romantics are hopeless, but your tale does not have to end the same way.
While the world may promote the journey being the road to success, there is something even better. The road to love.
We will know that in our hearts — we are on a journey — on the road to find love that already exists within ourselves.
So, young pilgrim…
Whether you are 20, 50, or 70 years of age, be a fool for love. There is no greater story, no greater love. Be a fool and chase your dreams. Stay persistent even when you want to give up.
Be a fool and watch what happens.