Nothing can beat the feeling of sweet victory — whether that be at excelling at our job, at school, or even at the masterpiece of writing you produce. We all have something to celebrate, and I am a firm believer in celebrating both the small and big victories.
Even so, I often stop to think and reflect throughout the day on my choices. Was there a moment where I could have used my time more wisely? The point of reflection is not to dwell, but to keep track of the progress in making the most of the day. We often find ourselves creating to-do lists and journal entries which help keep us in check and rightly so.
Success, as we know it though, is not measured by the achievements we’ve made and checked off on a to-do list.
More rather, success is measured by the series of victories we create in every moment to reach our own personal excellence.
It’s hard to measure success in every second on a day-to-day basis when we are surrounded by both defined and undefined rules which informs us on what success should look like.
Society dictates what success is, but I have concluded that most of us writers, here, on this platform are eager to break ourselves from the prescribed mold.
Breaking the Mold
With that being said though, sometimes we put so much emphasis on breaking the mold that we lose sight of the original reason why we wanted to venture off in the first place.
We shouldn’t use the “rebel” mentality to one up others. Nor should we covertly scheme to reach success — as society defines it — under the guise of the catchphrase “off-beaten track”.
We also shouldn’t go down the unconventional route to find success for our own glory —enrapturing ourselves by the idea of doing it on our own: being an original.
Soon enough, the unconventional route will become conventional.
Later than never, doing the offbeat will be considered a tradition .
We recycle ideas all the time. ← This sentence I just wrote was recycled.
Which begs the question: do we really need to break the mold?
My first year of teaching, I had my sights set on reaching success by being an original with my lessons and content. I wanted my class to be uniquely interactive. I didn’t want to borrow ideas.
That was the moment I failed.The pitfall I found myself in was due to the fact that I lacked a foundation to my teaching. I solely wanted to be an “original”.
But being “original” is not what makes a teacher extraordinary.
I could have the best lessons, the best resources, the best everything, but if I cannot reach the hearts of anyone in my classroom: I’m not a teacher at all.
I’m a fraud.
A student’s father could have just went back to prison; he or she may have lost their nana; maybe a student is living without parents or a home.
Your so-called amazing, original lesson will do nothing for them.
The best lessons one can teach must come from the heart, and in turn, touch the hearts of the students.
Your students may not remember the particular lesson you taught them, but they will remember the moments of your encouraging words and how you comforted and supported them in hard times. They will remember how you made them feel even despite the struggles they face in their journey.
The moments I experienced success with my students did not come from originality.
It came from compassion. From love.
Success also comes from sacrifice. You have to sacrifice what you want for what you need to do in the present moment.
But success is also habitual. The more you do it, the more that your wants and needs will blend together to become one.
We all have problems we feel hinders us from reaching success. Those moments don’t magically disappear.
But surrender to the present moment. Build the future that you need and want by channeling your focus now. Not later. Not in the future.
We choose to focus on the now to pick up the pieces of a broken house to build a new one.
Success is a process.
Some may even argue that success cannot be measured. This claim is true — if you decide to use society’s standard as the measurement.
You measure your success based on the core values you create for yourself. But you are the only one who can decide what you want your foundation to be. If your on-going achievements and actions align with your values— this is your true measure.
Don’t place value on how original you are. In some ways, we have all been molded:
Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually.
However, we still have a choice on how we shape ourselves from the present moment in all four domains.
Measure your success by the opportunities you create to build your own flexible mold.
It’s not about breaking the mold; it’s about softening the mold to the point that it can expand, becoming “moldable” again without losing the substance — the foundation — that it was created from.
We have to ask ourselves, what substance were we created from? How were we founded? Sometimes people do not find this answer in the lifetime.
But the journey exists to figure it out.
Success is built on the core of our mold — it may very well take the rest of our lifetime to build it.
As for the measure?
We choose how to mold the measure.
Readers and writers:
Mold your measure and figure out your foundation:
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