As we all know, a car is a privilege to have, and with any great privilege also comes great responsibility.
People die due to cars. Some people are even willing to drain their savings set aside for bills and daily expenses just to buy a fancy car. How vehicles are used can be a source of good as it can be for evil.
With this in mind, each and every one of us must exercise caution on the road. If not, it may just very well cost us our lives.
Dying in the Arms of a Loved One
My father used to recount the memories of Uncle Charlie — the husband of my father’s aunt. Uncle Charlie had died in a car crash — a hit-and-run. Back then, Bangkok was still mostly jungle in the 1960s.
My aunt had found her husband lying on the side of the road. She ran to him and dragged him away from the road. She sat there with Uncle Charlie sprawled tenderly in her arms. Waiting. By the time help came, Uncle Charlie had already died in the arms of my aunt.
My heart broke the first time I heard this story about my second aunt. I never knew her well, but all at once, I saw her in a different light. To have the love of your life die in your arms… I could not even imagine. Hearing this story also forced me to see the previous accidents I have ever been in from a different lens:
I’m still alive. My father and brother who also drive are still alive as well. I’m lucky. I can’t complain.
The world is unpredictable, though. Even when you take preventative measures to avoid a possibly dangerous situation, you can still find yourself at the wrong place at the wrong time. While exerting caution is important, what’s even more important:
To never take your loved ones for granted.
You can’t control the actions of others. You can be the most careful driver and lessen the chances of an accident, but in the end, you never truly know what is in your cards.
You never know which day will be the last — what’s in the deck of fate. We constantly think there will be enough time, but then the moment is gone. Time — the moment — passes before you even have the chance to say goodbye…
To say “I love you”.
What We Can Do:
Instead of dwelling in the past or being preoccupied by the future, we have to spend on living in the present moment. Oftentimes our problem is thinking that we can save the moment.
We don’t travel, because we are waiting to save money and guard it for later.
We don’t follow our dreams, because we are saving — waiting — for the right moment in time.
There is no right time, though. There is only now. When we think we have time “later”, we pride ourselves in the idea of always having time- a state of immortality. However, the last time I checked, I was still human.
We can still plan for the future, but the point is that we have to do more in the present. Your future dreams must be brought to present time. Everything that must be done today, MUST be part of your dream.
Of course, it’s easier said than done. Even for myself as I write this am having a difficult time shutting off the myriad of thoughts floating in my mind. But the actions we take now are more important — more precious- than what we have failed to do.
You’re still alive today. There are still precious moments now to spend than to save. You have been given the opportunity to live another day.
What will you accomplish right in this moment? What you can live for today?
I have been in two accidents just within the past few months -one just yesterday– where a person has rear-ended me. This information may be common sense for drivers, but here are some reminders to help keep us in check while on the road:
- Avoid driving during rush hour if possible.
- Leave for your destination early enough so that you do not feel rushed.
- Take surface streets.
- Drive within the speed limit.
- Be nice and don’t tailgate.
- Leave enough space between yourself and the car in front of you.
- Pay attention to the car behind you. If he/she is tailgating, safely move to another lane.
- Stay alert to when a car in front slows down without notice. If you have enough of a space cushion (buffer room), you can still slow down gradually to alert the car behind you.
- Say “I love you”: show that you care before you or a loved one leaves off to drive, walk, or take another form of transportation.
Be safe on the road.
The Ordinary Love Story